As little children we are bold enough to not let the fact that we fall while we are learning to walk stop us from feeling good about ourselves, or if we get words wrong as we learn to speak it doesn’t phase us because we know we will figure it out…so why then, as we get older and try new things do we lack the confidence to master new things or sometimes even try them?
I believe that our lack of confidence can come from life experiences, and from our environment. So as Adults, if we have encountered things that maybe have knocked us down, how do we pick ourselves up and truly believe that we can accomplish whatever we set our minds to?
Confidence is always going to be a work in progress. It’s not something where you feel like you have “finally made it”, however, there are times when we can truly feel on top of our game and truly untouchable. These are the moments we strive for and here are some things I do to help me feel like that more often than not:
1. Dress the way I want to be addressed. I always wear clothes that make me feel great about myself, and that stand out, so I can walk with my head held high. Choosing outfits that make me feel good, mean that when I walk into a room, I don’t have to worry what anyone else thinks about me, because I KNOW what I think about myself.
2. Surround myself with people that lift me up. It is really hard to feel good about yourself while you have people (no matter who they are) bringing you down. We may not always realize what is happening, but I have definitely had people in my life that for some reason just don’t make me feel good, or feel like they need to criticize so they can feel better about themselves (that’s all on them, and I realized I don’t have to own it!)
3. Love myself. This starts by telling myself how great I am and what I am capable of. I have found that how we feel about ourselves directly affects how people to respond to us. Have you ever been in a room and acted a certain way and wondered why other people may act that same way? Your mood and your feelings about yourself are definitely contagious!
4. Do things that I love. I know this is not possible all the time, but I always make sure that I am taking care of myself. Sometimes that can be something as simple as reading a great book while I’m in the bath…I know, I’m a simple soul 🙂
These are just a few of the things that work for me…I hope they work for you too!